One Without The Other

“O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?” – Romans 7:24 (NKJV)

Pride. That old enemy resurfaces and keeps showing his face.

Last week Amy asked me to help her with something that should have taken no more than five minutes. She wanted help bringing the plants inside so they wouldn’t freeze that night. Instead I complained as I helped and basically hinted that I would have done it differently, and bought them later on in May so we wouldn’t run into this. And of course, turned something into an issue that just shouldn’t have been one. That’s me…I always know better ! And I hate myself for being that way.

I was having dinner with one of the pastors last week and explained this situation to him. I said, “Pastor, I just don’t get it. I continually think to myself, ‘Next time, I’ll be more patient and handle things differently.’ But then I wind up doing the same thing all over again.”

I then said I sometimes feel like Paul in Romans 7. “For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” – Romans 7:15 (ESV). It’s at these times I feel that I can’t possibly ask God for more grace in these things, that I’ve wrung it all dry. I’ve asked and prayed about it too many times.

That’s when Pastor Jay jumped in. He said, “Joe, you can’t do that. Don’t give me Romans 7 without also giving me Romans 8. You can’t have one without the other.”

“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death.” – Romans 8:1-2 (ESV)

I think this is another area where pride comes in for me too…that I can make myself feel better by beating myself up over how sinful I am (?). I recently came across a quote from C.J. Mahaney’s book “The Cross Centered Life” about how wrong-headed this kind of thinking is:

“Don’t buy the lie that cultivating condemnation and wallowing in your shame is somehow pleasing to God, or that a constant, low-grade guilt will somehow promote holiness and spiritual maturity.

It’s just the opposite! God is glorified when we believe with all our hearts that those who trust in Christ can never be condemned. It’s only when we receive his free gift of grace and live in the good of total forgiveness that we’re able to turn from old, sinful ways of living and walk in grace-motivated obedience.”

This is a very difficult concept for me to get a handle on. I think sometimes that if I let go of the “wallowing”, as C.J. puts it, then I’ll fall into the “I’m a good person” mentality, and everything will swing back the other way. I know that grace is there, but I feel better holding onto the awareness of how sinful I am.

But…you can’t have one without the other. I thank God that through his Word, and through brothers and sisters around me, that I’ve been reminded again of that.

4 thoughts on “One Without The Other

  1. happy4life

    You’re not alone. I am fighting with being that way myself. (especially with my mom) I’ll pray for you and you pray for me.

  2. Chris

    So true Joe, so true. The same struggles here just like what you described.

    We were talking over this exact topic in our small group. The point was made that our bondage to sin (such as pride) has been broken – we are free from sin. The challenge however is fully realizing this and not going back to our old ways out of habit.

    Very true as well about beating oneself up. I totally find myself more able to serve God when I just get out of my self-wallowing rump and trust in Him for such things as all the sins that cause me to stumble so frequently. I fully believe that my prayers for God to help me were heard, but that He chose these struggles for me to grow and truly trust in Him. And not myself….

  3. micey

    Wow! I was having this conversation with my friend today as well! Oh how the Holy Spirit moves through our lives, keeping us on the same page as His body… Crazy! Praise God!

  4. Greg


    Excellent post! One thought that has helped me is to view worldly sorrow (some might call it “guilt) as a bear trap- once it bites into you it immobilizes you and keeps you as a prisoner. But godly sorrow (some might call it “conviction”) is a springboard- it shakes you up but always moves you forward- into the gracious embrace of the Savior who keeps leading us on. Praise Him for the cross and the unfathomable grace of God!

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